He asked me to be his wife

To be honest, I knew it was coming.


We had talked about getting married that coming summer. I knew he had talked to my parents. A few weeks before, he had ditched the class we had together (history of religion- pharisees & sadducees) and would not tell me where he went. I had a hunch that the ring was purchased that day.


He knew this too. He knew me well- that I tend to figure out surprises before they happen. That I can tell when he is hiding something from me. That I would be curious any time he took me on a date.


He was smart.


Valentine’s Day was coming up. I knew he wouldn’t propose on Valentine’s Day because he thought that was cheesy. Then again- would he surprise me by completely going against my expectations and do it on the 14th?


He was smart.


He planned a decoy engagement. Starting a few days into February, he took me on a date every day. Sometimes fancy, sometimes not. On that first date night, he gave me a piece of foam board that had been cut to look like a puzzle piece. It had writing on it, but I had no idea what it was a part of. During each date, he gave me another puzzle piece. I was starting to catch on. I figured that once I had all of the puzzle pieces, it would say something romantic and lead to his proposal.


He was smart.


I no longer questioned whether that day’s date would be “the one” because I knew I needed many more puzzle pieces.

I only had 5 puzzle pieces and none of them fit together. I expected that the following week, around Valentine’s Day, I would have all of the puzzle pieces.


On a wednesday, he told me to dress cute to my bible study because he would be picking me up to take me to dinner afterward. Totally normal. This would be a short date, because we had to be back on campus at 7 for the weekly meeting for Campus Crusade for Christ. He was on the worship team, so I knew we wouldn’t be missing it.


We went out to dinner at one of our favorite restaurants, Il Fornaio. He hardly ate. On the drive back down Santa Monica Blvd,  he was playing a fun playlist he had put together, ending with a live Jeff Buckley song about being a husband. I did not catch on to anything.


We got back to UCLA, he practiced with the band and Cru started as normal. After the set of songs, the rest of the band sat down and Daveed stayed up in front by himself. **I am still not expecting anything at this point**. He starts talking about how we are a community that supports each other and shares in each others lives… blah blah blah… I’m thinking that we are going to break into groups and pray or something. Then it happened. He called me to the front.


There in the science lecture hall, he sang me a love song in front of 300 of our friends. This was extremely significant because he had never before played any song he had written about me. I finally got it. This was the moment. The love of my life had completely fooled me and surprised me in a way I would have never expected. And he asked me to marry him.


He was smart :)


The puzzle pieces? Totally a decoy (although they were a part of the lyrics from the song he wrote).


He carried me out of the room through the nearest door he could find, which turned out to be the chemistry supply closet. It was there that I said yes.


7 years ago, I was blown away by what a thoughtful, creative and talented fiance I had. 7 years later, I am still daily blown away by the man I get to share my life with.


Because I get teary eyed every time I see that Robbins Bros commercial while watching Parenthood on Hulu, I thought I would share the video of his song and proposal. Enjoy :)


Daveed & Courtney’s proposal- Feb 9th 2005 from courtney toney on Vimeo.

4 Responses to "He asked me to be his wife"

Add Comment
  1. barbara

    February 10, 2012 at 5:31 am

    awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!SWEETNESSS!! LOVE YOU TWO!!

    • Amy Giffin

      February 10, 2012 at 7:14 am

      I purposely go on you tube to find Marriage proposals to watch for fun entertainment:) And… I have toi say this is the best one I’ve seen yet!!!

      So glad to be apart of your lives at GVC. Love you both! Thank you for the impact you two have had on my life! May GOD continue to bless you.

  2. nonna linda

    February 10, 2012 at 9:02 am

    Beautiful recap of your story Courtney. I am so blessed to have you as a daughter in law! I didn’t realize that today was the day he proposed! Thank you for sharing your sweet story with everyone! I love you both so much

  3. Pingback: Another late instafriday… | Joyful Joyful

Submit a comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>